5 Signs He’s Just Using You for the Romance and Deep Convos

He actually wants to get to know you, he says -- and he means it.

He seems perfect. Everything’s going right. He’s sweet, funny, charming — but then you try to have sex with him. He’s just not having it. You wait patiently. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months. He doesn’t budge. But you love spending time with him. The candlelit dinners, snuggling up to watch Netflix, late-night stargazing. Yet it all leaves you wondering: Maybe he’s just in it for the romance? These are the 6 signs he’s using you for that very reason.


1. He always wants to hang out in public

This is a definite giveaway that he’s just using you for the romance. He wants to talk about life, your dreams, goals, and the things that inspire you. He also doesn’t really want to just Netflix and chill. Get. Out. Girl.


2. He says he wants to spend “actual time” with you

He says this as if sweating in the sheets for a few hours doesn’t count as actual time. He’s for sure using you for romance. Boy, bye.


3. He says he wants to “actually get to know you”

If he seems genuine here, that’s a big red flag. He seems to legit care for you? That means he’s not all about the booty. Get out while you still can. You are a strong independent woman who don’t need no man.


4. He wants to be connected on social media

He has nothing to hide. He truly wants to be connected, not just in real life, but in the cyberworld, too. He wants to know what’s going on with you. Sketch. Def using you for the romance.


5. He’s looking for something serious

If he says this, especially early on, he probably means it. Block. His. Number.


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